Help with Anger Problems
Anger is a perfectly normal human emotion. How we handle it is the hard part.
Anger is a choice. We interpret situations and decide, however quickly, whether to be angry or not. Poor anger control can lead to relationship problems, employment difficulties and in extreme cases to legal consequences. Sometimes anger is used to control a relationship, so anger can be manipulative. Sometimes it is frustration that boils over.
There is no psychiatric diagnosis of anger. Assuming you are not deliberately using anger to manipulate people, it is possible to get some idea of whether you might want to get anger management treatment using the following questions:
Getting a Bead on Anger
Over the course of a week:
- how often are you irritated more than people are aware?
- how often do you feel angry?
- how often do you feel like you are ready to explode?
- how often are you grouchy?
- how often do you feel annoyed?
If you find yourself answering often or always to the above questions you may want to do something about your anger.
Anger Management Training/Treatment
Anger management treatment typically includes the following:
- Understanding your anger episodes — personal triggers for anger
- Deciding whether you are ready to change — you’re the one who has to change, not the other guy
- How to avoid and escape anger provoking situations
- How to find new solutions to social problems
- How to change the way you think about your life
- How to forgive
- How to relax
- Learn to expose yourself to anger situations and react less
- How to express anger in a more assertive way
If you are ready to change yourself and learn new skills and outlooks on things, I’d be happy to help. Please give me a call. My telephone number is 1-888-933-3539. I'd be happy to speak with you.
NB: A note to those who have been court-ordered to anger management treatment. Pardon me if I seem a bit blunt in the following. If you are court-ordered to undergo anger management treatment, you may be angry with the court for ordering you to deal with the anger outburst(s) that led to your court appearance. Not a good start. People who are court-ordered to do anger management treatment sometimes see me as an arm of the court and all they want to do is “do” the number of court-ordered sessions. A good “therapeutic alliance” between you and me is needed for you to make progress. If you are still angry with the court for ordering treatment, and angry with me as a part of “the system”, you will probably not do well in treatment. It would be a waste of both our times, and your money. You need to be willing to look at yourself and be willing to work to change yourself (not the others who “made” you angry). If you are willing to work on yourself, I'd be happy to work with you.